Codependency

This group is for those struggling with the compulsion to rescue and take care of others, have difficulty setting boundaries, or recognizing their own worth.  Members in this group learn to express their own needs and wants in healthy ways.

The key to Codependent sobriety is learning how to have healthy relationships and how to establish and enforce appropriate boundaries that we accurately establish where we end and where another begins.

I can recognize codependent sobriety when I have not actively sought control or manipulate others, given unsolicited advice, or based my self-concept on the well being or approval of others.

While working toward codependent sobriety, I’ll make a faithful commitment to consistently work the program, which includes working or having worked through the CR Step Study, steady attendance at the Friday night meetings, and accountability to a sponsor and accountability partners.  We advocate journaling, daily inventory, transparency and rigorous honesty.

The codependent person can achieve the following:

• Hear the struggles of other Codependents.

• Learn healthy, Christian values for family roles and rules.

• Gain information about healthy sexuality and relationships.

• Break through denial and other unhealthy family patterns.

• Encouragement from the group to find peace, strength and grace through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

• Build healthy relationships by finding love and acceptance in a “safe” place to share.

• Realize that we could not control the addict or their behavior.

• Understand that our problems are emotional and spiritual.

• Face our denial and accept the truth about our lives, and our past issues.

• Realize that blaming ourselves, trying to control the addict and/or ignoring their behavior, refusing to set and uphold our own personal boundaries, are all signs of co-addiction.

• Accept responsibility for our own actions and make Jesus the Lord of our lives.

• Become dedicated to learning about sexual addiction and co-addiction and becoming partners with our spouse in recovery.

• Realize we are not responsible for their addiction or recovery. It is not our job to “cure” them.

• Find healthy ways to release our fears and anger and refuse to use anger inappropriately towards the addict.

• Have a safe place to share fears, hurt or anger and also to rejoice in victories.

• Face our own defects and work through these feelings.

• Take the focus off of the addict and focus on God and our own thoughts and feelings.